Women in their 40’s venture out to find themselves. What is this all about?                              What does this mean? 

I Have had a long conversation with my new found precious friend Rebecca. She voices her thoughts simply making it easy to see and identify with. 

I think I understand what it means and the need for it.

All her life a woman is known by the relationships she builds. Boxes she fits into roles she plays. A daughter, a mom,a wife,a daughter-in-law, a homemaker, a cleaner,a cook,an organiser etc etc.

Over years all these relationships diminish one by one. Doesn’t mean she looses these relationships but the others involved in these relationships move on with their lives while she is left standing in a time warp.

She is no more the obedient girl she once was, she’s moved on from being a girlfriend, her husband gets busy with work, she gets used to being a daughter-in-law, her house works like clockwork thanks to her organisational skills and finally the last straw is wen her kids move out. 

It’s doesn’t stop her from loving or giving but she has nothing more to explore, teach or learn.She has nothing to give that anyone needs from her anymore. She almost becomes redundant. 

She doesn’t have to teach tying laces, She doesn’t have to pack innovative lunch boxes, or revisit homework. She ceases to be an enthusiastic lover writing letters and planning anniversary dinners as they go unnoticed. She looses interest in dressing up or cooking new dishes because it goes unregistered. Suddenly no one seems to need her anymore as they used to. She almost becomes a part of the furniture,the once coveted beautiful rocking chair which now gets used to pile up clothes.The void starts caving in then.

All relationships start fading like blurred words in her once rich book with innumerable stories. What she’s left with is empty pages with no sense of being wanted. Taking away her sense of belonging.

That’s when she has no option but to start investigating new means to give herself a sense of purpose. Menial things stop filling time and space, or the vacuum she experiences. She is forced to dig deep inside her to discover passions that have taken a back seat or have been left unexplored for too long.

She is left with no choice but to find and Become her own person, much beyond roles she filled, because she has no audience left anymore. 

And That’s when she is left with the mammoth task of unearthing Her own self for her survival.